In our daily lives, we often encountered certain experiences, either from a known person or a distant colleague, that we are afraid to share it with anyone or even talk about it. Sometimes we scared that people might take it wrongly or once we get started, we may not be able to stop, and that will be very embarrassing. Interestingly, it is not the experience or an incident that we afraid to speak of, but it is the emotions and feelings that generated from that experience which we afraid to express it to anyone. Being a teacher, I experienced such behaviours from my students as well when they don’t speak out their minds and even resist to share their opinions openly in the classroom. Upon asking, I hear the same old reason, ‘what if someone rejects or laugh at my point?‘ I always wonder, why sometimes it’s easy to feel, decide or think about anyone or anything inside our head. But it’s much harder to express it out loud? What happened if we resist our self to express and speak out our mind in front of others? Continue reading “Why Is It Essential to Express Our Emotions Openly?”
In South Asian countries like India and Pakistan, it has been three months since our lives and activities have become limited to our home only. Like everybody else, teenagers have also become the victim of this pandemic, and it brings them a set of newfound fears at an age when young people tend to feel invincible. Schools and colleges have been shut down with no favourable chances of reopening them soon. Many of my students are connected to me as well as parents; they usually share their concerns and hopes just to make sure things will going to be normal soon – which I also hope and pray. However, talking with them makes me think that students, especially teens, are at a significant transition period in their lives, and parents should consider this transition seriously. During this crucial period in their development, teens often are suddenly faced with processing a range of intense emotions, from fear and anger to sadness and grief. Continue reading “Parenting During Pandemic: How to Address Adolescent’s Fears and Keep Their Healthy Routines”
This article/reflection is a little bit different than the ones which I usually write on this blog. This article is based on actual events that occurred recently and the discussions I had with some of the people related to these events. To maintain privacy, the identities of people and places will not be mention in the article
How differently it felt when you lost someone beloved or even someone whom you just met for a while? I believe many will say that it depends upon the amount of time spending and engaging with each other. However, sometimes a person whom you meet in a while would have left an everlasting impact on you than people whom you know since ages. Most of us wish they could be so lucky to finds a best friend at least once in our lifetime. But the question is why a great gift when it occurs, becomes a significant pain when it is lost?
Last year, one of my students shared that she lost her best friend in a car crash, and she was devastated about that. She considers her as a family even they know each other for a couple of years only. I simply counsel her and start giving advice like don’t avoid the pain, remember you aren’t alone, remember all your great memories etc. When she left, I felt relax that somehow my words might ease her pain until recently when I felt the same pain. Whether it’s a friend, a sibling or even someone you just sort of know, the loss of their life can make you feel like you have an enormous hole inside yourself. Continue reading “Adolescence and the Loss of a Close Friend”
A lot is happening in the world today that, I believe for an average person like me, it is hard to understand. It is so easy to feel small in the bigness of some of the tragedies happening these last few months. I think humanity is realised now that things which we were taking as granted are basically the real asset to us. With all the chaos and pain, there is still so much for us to embrace, like love and memories. Memories that help us to overcome our painful moments and navigate us to the comforting breeze of feelings.
I experience a similar kind of feelings when yesterday I was reading a book of selected poems by William Wordsworth. Continue reading “I wandered lonely as a cloud – The Daffodils”
Hira, you’re a dedicated student, but you never take the lead in any activity or project even when you know yourself that you can be a good frontrunner. Sir I know but, there is a voice inside my head that keeps saying to me that – I am a loser… I will mess up things for sure. This was the conversation I had with one of my students last week at parent-teacher meeting. Her parent took her confession as an unserious attitude towards her education. However, it was apparent from her impressions that she was not kidding and instead was asking a solution to her problem. But the thing that puzzles my mind after that conversation was ‘from where she hears these voices? Is it a result of some adverse childhood experiences or something else? Continue reading “Teen Voice: Why There Are Negative Voices in My Head?”