Category: Human Development

Why Do We Fear Change? Reasons and Remedies

Why Do We Fear Change? Reasons and Remedies
By Ahmad Amirali

Today, one of my office colleagues asked me about my first year when I started my teaching career. I told her that it was quite remarkable because I was passionate as well as confused about this new journey. She added that I’d changed a lot since then in terms of my thinking and the way I engage with the people. I exclaimed ‘really, you think so?’ and she said yes, I thought it would be tough for you. I laugh, but deep down, I question myself, why it is tough for anyone to adopt change? It is because we love the old part of ourselves or we simply afraid to change? Continue reading “Why Do We Fear Change? Reasons and Remedies”

Why Empathy? The Science Behind Understanding Other’s Feelings

Why Empathy? The Science Behind Understanding Other’s Feelings
BY Ahmad Amirali

Last month was hectic, as well as an energetic month for me as I conducted educational camps in two of the major cities of Pakistan. Once again, I experienced that although people live in the diverse cultural and linguistic environment, still they value certain things in their life, which is common among us. Food and clothing are some of the things through which we can connect. Talking about connection, does it mean that feelings and emotions play an important role through which we interact with people? I found the answer when students normally share stuff with me that normally they don’t share it with anyone. I experienced the same when I interacted my students on these camps. It means even though I was completely stranger to them moments ago, they still believe and trust me enough that they can share their issues, confusions and even fears with me. The term which I was searching for this phenomenon was ‘Empathy’. Continue reading “Why Empathy? The Science Behind Understanding Other’s Feelings”

What Makes You, You? The Puzzle of Personality Traits

What Makes You, You? The Puzzle of Personality Traits

Have you ever wondered how you develop the personality which is an integral part of your identity? What inspires you to be who you are right now? Maybe you traditionally answered, I am like my dad or mom, I inspire by my teacher or a celebrity’s struggle and life story motivated my personality trait. Psychologists like to talk about our traits or defined characteristics that make us who we are. But psychologists like Brian Little, a Cambridge professor and the personality analyst, is more interested in moments when we transcend those traits — sometimes because our culture demands it of us, and sometimes because we demand it of ourselves. Continue reading “What Makes You, You? The Puzzle of Personality Traits”

Why Do We Get So Attached to The Movie’s Fictional Characters?

Why Do We Get So Attached to The Movie’s Fictional Characters?
By Ahmad Amirali

I recently watch Marvel’s latest Avengers: Endgame with my friends. I like the storyline, and all the action sequences, above all the Marvel’s characters, are grouped up in this movie. We all know that the Endgame is the last movie of its Avenger’s franchise, and it is evident pretty much in every scene of the film. Many lead characters are now dead or getting old, which gave us the impression that the future marvel world will now in the hands of new generations of heroes. However, I am not writing this article to provide you with my reflections about the Endgame movie. Instead, I observed people’s reaction during the end credits of the film. Everybody was like crying or waiting for the after credits clip, that usually included in the MCU movies since 2008. The audience’s emotional behaviour made me read some researchers and ask this question, why do we get so attached to the movie’s fictional characters? Continue reading “Why Do We Get So Attached to The Movie’s Fictional Characters?”

Why Do We Lie to Ourselves Most of The Times?

Why Do We Lie to Ourselves Most of The Times?
By Ahmad Amirali

As a teacher, I often observed that students always have their reasons ready for their incomplete homework or their bad behaviour in classrooms. We, teachers, know that almost all these reasons and excuses are nothing but small lies generated in a specific mind frame of students. Interestingly the case is similar to us adults as well. We often, or almost all the time, give excuses to our bad behaviour or bad encounters in our daily lives. However, we often find ourselves defending our lies in front of others and considering it normal behaviour. I called this a motivated false belief wrapped with a fabric of our false hopes and expectations. The question is, why we engage in a practice where we create false promises to ourselves and become part of that drama? Continue reading “Why Do We Lie to Ourselves Most of The Times?”