Category: Human Development

Why Do Students Want to Be Perfect in Everything?

Why Do Students Want to Be Perfect in Everything?
By Ahmad Amirali

“Sir, I meet my subject tutor today and he told me that achieving 95% in mathematics and science I, not a big deal and overall 85% is an average grade for a student like you….my parents appear to have a similar kind of thoughts… I feel so much pressure, what if I lost or unable to achieve these grades….”

This is one of the common concerns or what can I say a ‘trauma’ shared by many students, but differently, since I started my teaching career. Each year, several students graduated and happily embark upon their career journey. Some reach out their goals and successfully achieve whatever they’ve planned for their future. However, some teenagers try to pursue whatever their parents, teachers, friends or relatives think are best for them and in that pursuit all they do is simply sacrifice every dream they ever dream for themselves. The question is why is it necessary for students to achieve greatness in every walk of their lives? Does it come from within or from the adults around them? Continue reading “Why Do Students Want to Be Perfect in Everything?”

Are You Alone in Your Loneliness?

Are You Alone in Your Loneliness?
By Ahmad Amirali

Humans are roaming on this planet for millions of years, along with all the different types of species. Every single being is connected through many facets, ecologically, and one of the aspects is ‘Emotions’. We do have emotions because we feel, just as everything else does – trees, animals, insects, everything feels somehow, and that’s how we all are connected. However, I am leaving some room for critics, as some people might not agree with me. Talking about emotions, have you ever found yourselves alone in a room full of people? Have you ever felt invisible in the middle of a conversation with your friends or family members? Have you ever felt lonely even you’re surrounded by your loved ones? You know what, you might not be alone in your loneliness. Continue reading “Are You Alone in Your Loneliness?”

Why Is Being Emotional Necessary for Our Children’s Better Future?

Why Is Being Emotional Necessary for Our Children’s Better Future?
By Ahmad Amirali

I still remember the day when I seriously injured myself while playing with a toy. I was nine at that time and I was crying horrendously in front of my relatives. At that moment my mum kept reminding me that ‘You are a boy; boys don’t cry, be brave and don’t cry.’ We usually say these words to our children to comfort their panicked feelings as they might have encountered such emotions for the first time. we shielded them through our phrases from the emotions like anger, guilt, sadness or even grief, making them realise that these are ‘Bad Emotions’. Why we don’t want our kids to experience certain feelings? Is there anything like ‘Bad Emotions’? As a human, we do have an emotional response to every situation and instance. It means every emotion has a specific meaning or importance in our lives. So why we start believing that being emotional is a sign of weakness and unnecessary for our kid’s personality development? Continue reading “Why Is Being Emotional Necessary for Our Children’s Better Future?”

When You should Share Your Secrets? and Why

When You Should Share Your Secrets? and Why
By Ahmad Amirali

Have you ever wondered why sometimes you want an urge to share your griefs, sorrows and the deepest dark thoughts with another human being? Whether students or teachers like me, we all share our secrets to a person we assume that our secret will not be revealed to anyone else. In that way, people have experienced the relief of getting something off their chest by sharing personal information. Relieving the stress of hiding painful, emotionally stressful information by sharing it with a trusted confidant can be intense, freeing, and liberating.  However, much depends on the subject matter of the secret you share, including your often justifiable unwillingness to share it. Continue reading “When You should Share Your Secrets? and Why”

Why Do We Fear Change? Reasons and Remedies

Why Do We Fear Change? Reasons and Remedies
By Ahmad Amirali

Today, one of my office colleagues asked me about my first year when I started my teaching career. I told her that it was pretty remarkable because I was passionate and confused about this new journey. She added that I’d changed a lot since then in terms of my thinking and how I engage with people. I exclaimed, ‘really, you think so?’ and she said yes, I thought it would be tough for you. I laugh, but deep down, I question why it is tough for anyone to adopt change? It is because we love the old part of ourselves, or we simply afraid to change?

One of the reasons could be is we fear change because we can’t anticipate the outcome. However, staying the same can be riskier than keeps on changing according to the circumstances. Although we reject uncertainty, we have the skills to change and evolve. Fear is an emotion that gets in the way we lose clarity of our potential. Most of the time, our fear of change is based on stories both real and the ones we say to ourselves. We narrate our lives as if they are out of our control. We feel as we are playing a part someone else wrote for us. It is significant to know that our life is not a book written by others. Create your storyline. Most of the times we cannot control the outcomes but it doesn’t mean we don’t have the potential to lead our lives as we want. Continue reading “Why Do We Fear Change? Reasons and Remedies”