Category: Student Behavior

Adolescence and the Loss of a Close Friend

This article/reflection is a little bit different than the ones which I usually write on this blog. This article is based on actual events that occurred recently and the discussions I had with some of the people related to these events. To maintain privacy, the identities of people and places will not be mention in the article

How differently it felt when you lost someone beloved or even someone whom you just met for a while? I believe many will say that it depends upon the amount of time spending and engaging with each other. However, sometimes a person whom you meet in a while would have left an everlasting impact on you than people whom you know since ages. Most of us wish they could be so lucky to finds a best friend at least once in our lifetime. But the question is why a great gift when it occurs, becomes a significant pain when it is lost?

Last year, one of my students shared that she lost her best friend in a car crash, and she was devastated about that. She considers her as a family even they know each other for a couple of years only. I simply counsel her and start giving advice like don’t avoid the pain, remember you aren’t alone, remember all your great memories etc. When she left, I felt relax that somehow my words might ease her pain until recently when I felt the same pain. Whether it’s a friend, a sibling or even someone you just sort of know, the loss of their life can make you feel like you have an enormous hole inside yourself. Continue reading “Adolescence and the Loss of a Close Friend”

Digital Well-being Guidelines for Parents during the Height of Pandemic

Digital Well-being Guidelines for Parents during the Height of Pandemic

Since the spread of Covid-19, technology is becoming the primary source of communication among people around the Globe. However, this sudden increase in technology usage, either in the form of a laptop or cellphone, also increases the need for the digital guidelines to provide a healthy and safe digital environment. Recently, Centre for Humane Technology (CHT) has provided a list of guidelines that will help parents who are feeling overwhelmed trying to navigate the amount of technology used in their children’s lives and their own.

In any circumstances, we should be aware that many of these products are actually not on your side. The social media platforms that many parents and children use everyday profit by keeping us scrolling, clicking, and watching. The result is a system that creates addiction, self-obsession, misinformation, and content that outrages and polarizes. Children are experiencing some of the worst effects of this broken attention economy. Continue reading “Digital Well-being Guidelines for Parents during the Height of Pandemic”

Why Do Students Feel Like an Imposter in Their Lives?

Why Do Students Feel Like an Imposter in Their Lives?
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, after class, one of my students came to me ask me ‘Sir, do you like to play video games?’ I replied, ‘yes, but how do you know?’ The student said, ‘Sir because I saw your websites and YouTube channel and find out that you modified many games like ten years ago and this fascinates me as you know what Sir, I am also a developer. I smiled and appreciated him of having an interest in this field. He showed me his project, which fascinates me as it was a mobile app and its related to book searching. He not only develops the app, but it practically fetches result in real-time from google. I appreciate him and encourage him to include this app as a Science Project in school. It was this moment where his smile vanishes, and he said ‘Sir, I don’t think, so I am capable of presenting it in the science fair.’ I astonishingly asked him, ‘Why do you think like that? You managed to develop such an amazing app, and this achievement itself shows your capability.’ He replied ‘Sir, it’s not a big deal, anybody can do it. I simply follow the discussion boards and copied codes from different forums, and it was just my luck that I somehow ended up with such an app. He then left for another subject class. This small yet strange conversation left me with many questions in my head. However, one question that puzzled me most was, why does he not believe in his abilities and simply give all the credit to his LUCK? What makes himself to think as an unworthy person and yet his ideas were just a result of copy and paste? Continue reading “Why Do Students Feel Like an Imposter in Their Lives?”

Dealing with Parent-Child Trust and Control Issues

Dealing with Parent-Child Trust and Control Issues
By Ahmad Amirali

These days I am attending a residential ten-day adolescent and youth training program where selected educators around the country meet and gathered in one platform. Yesterday, while discussing youth-related issues with one of the educators over dinner, a topic arose that why youth no longer trust their parents nowadays? After a while, we went for dinner but this brought a series of questions in my mind. Being a secondary educator, parents usually come and share their concerns about their child’s behaviour and ask for suggestions. And I remember that sometimes, parents simply said ‘My child doesn’t trust me’ or ‘I think my boy is having trust issues with me’. Although I discuss in my previous article Why Do Teens Shut Themselves Away from Their Family and Friends? that such short-term behaviour in adolescents is common, and it usually happened when adults unable to keep their promises with their child. However, what if their short-term behaviour would become their life-long habit? What if the reason behind this untrusted behaviour is far more different than simply broken promises? Continue reading “Dealing with Parent-Child Trust and Control Issues”

Examophobia: The Exam Stress in Teenagers – Reasons | Remedies

Examophobia: The Exam Stress in Teenagers – Reasons | Remedies
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, I was reviewing ‘Parent Reflections’, which I collected from parents during parent’s One-on-Ones, and come across a reflection that caught my attention. According to that parent, her kid’s classroom performance and lesson engagement are quite satisfactory; however, she believes that her kid takes examination and class tests too seriously than anything else in his routine. The term which she used to explain her kid’s stress is ‘Examophobia’, the most common and interesting fear among students since the ‘advent of examinations’. Every year, students and their parents share similar kind of concerns to me about how they plan their time table to manage and prepare for their mid-terms and finals. However, the question which I ask every year and especially after reading this reflection is what triggered in students to developed such exam/test-related stress that sometimes it even becomes a ‘Phobia’ in some teens? Continue reading “Examophobia: The Exam Stress in Teenagers – Reasons | Remedies”

Coping with Teens: The Demanding Phase of Teenagers

Coping with Teens: The Demanding Phase of Teenagers
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, a parent approached me after my class and shared one concern about her teen, which is of every parenting concern nowadays, that she is now becoming more and more demanding materialistically. She believes that her daughter, who is one of my students as well, always complains about the way they live in a ‘joint-family’, means she doesn’t have any privacy apart of her bedroom which is also shared with her younger siblings. However, the parent also appreciates that her daughter understands all these issues very well. Still, sometimes she argues too much with other family members and her siblings over small matters. The parent seems so desperate that she almost takes 30 minutes to share every bit of her mind with me. Once she finished, her daughter arrived, and she left without asking for a solution to her concerns. Maybe she only wants to share her worries to lighten up her emotions. However, while listening to her, several questions burst into my mind. First, if her daughter is that much reasonable, then what makes her react in such a rebellious manner at home? As per my observation, she is one of the obedient students of my class, and she hardly shows any sign of stress during the lessons. Is she really a demanding and attention seeker child at home or, maybe, her parent has misinterpreted her? Or perhaps all the assumptions are wrong, and the only issue is the communication gap between the daughter and the parent. Let’s find out. Continue reading “Coping with Teens: The Demanding Phase of Teenagers”