Moving Blues: Helping Your Teen to Handle Emotional Challenges of Moving

Why Especially Teenagers Feel Upset About Moving?

Last week, I moved out to a new apartment after spending almost 11 years in that apartment. While shifting my house-hold accessories, I was recalling many fond and cherished memories that I have made in all these years. Even the move was planned, I still felt on the last day that it was kind of a big step towards a whole new journey. This new experience reminds me of a student who, along with her parents, move to a new city. On her last day of school, she was devastated to meet her friends for the last time. Relocation is tough either from where you are living or studying. However, if you are a teenager, it is quite difficult to leave behind the school, friends, clubs and other commitments, as well as perhaps the only home you, have ever known. This transition from one place to another becomes more difficult for teenagers especially when so many emotional and physical changes already taking place in their lives.

Researchers believe that one of the major stresses in life is leaving behind friends, familiar places, and activities that eventually creates anxiety for everyone involved. One unexpected difference maybe school. It’s easy to assume that one school is pretty much like another, but for your kid, the new school may not use the same textbooks or procedures. Some of the classes may be different, or the teacher may have already covered topics your kid hasn’t learned about yet. It can be particularly hard for your kid if they are moving in the middle of a school year, but their teachers will understand and work with them to be sure they feel comfortable.

What should I do to prepare myself for the Big Change?

Although there is no way to eliminate the anxiety of moving, there are many ways to make the move easier. Before you even begin packing, you can start to get to know your new home. The Internet and library may contain lots of good information about your new community. When you’re visiting your new school, find out if there are deadlines for activities you’re interested in and see if you can still join.

Get a city map and highlight where you will be living, where your new school is, and the location of places of worship, movie theatres, skate parks, and other places you like to go. Search YouTube or google maps for the pictures and videos of your new place.

Start making a list of things that need to be done before the move. Offer to help your parents with some of their items. The more you participate and keep busy, the more it will feel like your own experience rather than something that is being imposed to you.

‘Keep in Touch’ instead of ‘Good-Bye’

One of the major fears of moving for teens is losing old friends. Remember your friends when you reach your new destination by putting pictures up around your new room. Print out copies of pictures for your friends to keep, too.

Saying goodbye is never easy, but it doesn’t mean it’s forever. Luckily, today it’s easier than before to stay in touch. Share your updates, tag your friends over social media with old videos and photos. Let your friends know about the differences, both good and bad, between your old home and your new place. You might be able to plan summer visits to see old friends or for a friend to visit you.

Moving is difficult, but you may learn some valuable skills: how to make new friends, be flexible, and find your way around strange places. Although learning these lessons can feel tough at the time, once you’ve settled in, you may find you like the new place better.

Be sure to say “hi” to the next new kid in town you can relate.

 

Source of information Kids Health

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