Why Self-Affirmation is Important to Support Struggling Adults and Students

Why Self-Affirmation is Important to Support Struggling Adults and Students
By Ahmad Amirali

Yesterday, I had a small conversation with one of my colleagues, discussing her future career goals she is looking out nowadays. As discussion precedes, I observe that she is too insecure and unmotivated for her future goals. She kept criticising her skills, education, things that turned around in her life and the way she is living her life right now. I confess that I’ve been observing her since months that something bothering her, even she looks normal to people, but her daily routine keeps on saying that she might be depressed or something. The similar kind of behaviours can also be found in students as well. Throughout the term, students come and discuss their anxiety and the way they feel when they encounter some sort of failures in their daily lives (Previous article: Why Should We Celebrate Our Failures?). The question is why such thoughts sometimes overcome our all the abilities and our achievements of our lives? Why do we start forgetting all our struggles whenever we encounter any drawback in our lives? Why suddenly we start feeling to end this life due to any failure? Read More …

Why Do We Expect from Others to Act Like Us?

Why Do We Expect from Others to Act Like Us?
By Ahmad Amirali

Today, I visited my old high school to attend a parent-teacher meeting with my niece, who is also studying there. I attended and met teachers; they were all fascinated to see me as some of them still remember me as their naughtiest kid. They shared their observations and reviews about my niece’s academic performance, and during that conversation, one teacher told me, ‘She is quite a remarkable student, but, she does not participate actively in some activities. I am now expecting more from her.’ As a teacher, when you heard such observations, you start doing the depth analyses, and therefore, many things come in my mind during this conversation. Different children have different abilities and different level of understanding, multiple intelligences, and the list of such theories goes on in my mind. However, the thing that puzzled me more than anything when she said ‘I expect…’. I heard many parents giving valuable advice to their kids and reminding them how they should fulfil their parent’s expectations. The very first question that exploded in my mind was, why do we even expect from others to act like us or think like us? Read More …

Why Do We Need A Friend to Survive in This World of Chaos?

Why Do We Need A Friend to Survive in This World of Chaos?
By Ahmad Amirali

Almost every year, during one on one sessions with my students, they share their deepest fears, confusions, and stress motivators. Majority of their concerns that puzzled their world are related to their social life – friendships. The question that every student, who suffered from traumatic social experience, ask ‘Sir, why someone hurt us who know us better than anyone?’ I simply listen to their concerns and let them answer their own questions – it’s one of my strategy where students find solutions to their problem by themselves. However, the question that puzzled me after hearing their concerns, ‘Why do we need a friend to survive in this world of chaos?

When I was in school, I fascinated one of the subjects so much – Social Studies, where we study human evolution and development. There I learn the definition of society that mentioned an important aspect of humans. Human beings are social animals who need other humans to survive and live happily in his world. Read More …

What Makes You, You? The Puzzle of Personality Traits

What Makes You, You? The Puzzle of Personality Traits

Have you ever wondered how you develop the personality which is an integral part of your identity? What inspires you to be who you are right now? Maybe you traditionally answered, I am like my dad or mom, I inspire by my teacher or a celebrity’s struggle and life story motivated my personality trait. Psychologists like to talk about our traits or defined characteristics that make us who we are. But psychologists like Brian Little, a Cambridge professor and the personality analyst, is more interested in moments when we transcend those traits — sometimes because our culture demands it of us, and sometimes because we demand it of ourselves. Read More …

Why Should We Celebrate Our Failures?

Why Should We Celebrate Our Failures?

Last year was the biggest and complicated year of my life in terms of career, growth, home and health. I learned that life is like a ‘trade cycle’, the moment you reach the peak of your aims and we start feeling that now everything is achieved, that moment become our first step towards our recession. Does it mean that we should not celebrate or feel enthusiast for our success? Or does it mean that we should not mourn over our failures and mistakes? I believe all of us experience our ups and downs throughout our lives. However, I am pretty much sure that almost all of us remember the time when we experienced loses, mistakes, difficulties and failure more clearly than the time when we celebrated our success. Why our mind keeps a clear record of our faults rather than success? Because learnings always come from failures. I still remember the quote from the cartoon ‘Lion King’ ‘the past can hurt, but the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it – Rafiki’. Read More …