Why Do We Need A Friend to Survive in This World of Chaos?

Why Do We Need A Friend to Survive in This World of Chaos?
By Ahmad Amirali

Almost every year, during one on one sessions with my students, they share their deepest fears, confusions, and stress motivators. Majority of their concerns that puzzled their world are related to their social life – friendships. The question that every student, who suffered from traumatic social experience, ask ‘Sir, why someone hurt us who know us better than anyone?’ I simply listen to their concerns and let them answer their own questions – it’s one of my strategy where students find solutions to their problem by themselves. However, the question that puzzled me after hearing their concerns, ‘Why do we need a friend to survive in this world of chaos?

When I was in school, I fascinated one of the subjects so much – Social Studies, where we study human evolution and development. There I learn the definition of society that mentioned an important aspect of humans. Human beings are social animals who need other humans to survive and live happily in his world. Read More …

What Makes You, You? The Puzzle of Personality Traits

What Makes You, You? The Puzzle of Personality Traits

Have you ever wondered how you develop the personality which is an integral part of your identity? What inspires you to be who you are right now? Maybe you traditionally answered, I am like my dad or mom, I inspire by my teacher or a celebrity’s struggle and life story motivated my personality trait. Psychologists like to talk about our traits or defined characteristics that make us who we are. But psychologists like Brian Little, a Cambridge professor and the personality analyst, is more interested in moments when we transcend those traits — sometimes because our culture demands it of us, and sometimes because we demand it of ourselves. Read More …

Why Should We Celebrate Our Failures?

Why Should We Celebrate Our Failures?

Last year was the biggest and complicated year of my life in terms of career, growth, home and health. I learned that life is like a ‘trade cycle’, the moment you reach the peak of your aims and we start feeling that now everything is achieved, that moment become our first step towards our recession. Does it mean that we should not celebrate or feel enthusiast for our success? Or does it mean that we should not mourn over our failures and mistakes? I believe all of us experience our ups and downs throughout our lives. However, I am pretty much sure that almost all of us remember the time when we experienced loses, mistakes, difficulties and failure more clearly than the time when we celebrated our success. Why our mind keeps a clear record of our faults rather than success? Because learnings always come from failures. I still remember the quote from the cartoon ‘Lion King’ ‘the past can hurt, but the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it – Rafiki’. Read More …