Why Kids Should Not Be Compared to Their Siblings

Why Kids Should Not Be Compared to Their Siblings
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, one of my students ask me ‘Sir, I think my mother doesn’t love me’ and she did not complete her sentence. I looked at her and asked, ‘Dear, what makes you think your parents don’t love you? At first, she didn’t reply but then ‘Sir, she always compared me with my younger brother and another cousin who is older than me….. No matter what I do, she always praises them more than me….. ever in her appreciation, I can feel her criticism…. Sometimes I feel that I am not good for anything.’ At that moment, other students entered the room, and the class commenced. She seems quite relaxed after our talk as she takes out whatever puzzling her mind. However, the question that starts puzzling me after that conversation with my students is ‘why parents compare their kids with someone else or even their own siblings? Does this comparison do any good and more harm to their kid’s personality development? Read More …

20 Questions Every Teenager Should Ask Themselves Before Entering into Adulthood

20 Questions Every Teenager Should Ask Themselves Before Entering into Adulthood
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, one of my students suddenly showed up in my class after two weeks of uninformed leaves. She looks embarrassed and quiet, so I simply leave the matter by asking about how is she and how is everything at her end. After class, she came to me and apologise for her irregularities and inform me that she was not quite well. Upon asking, she confesses that she wants to shift her career in finance and economics, however, her family is not in her favour. I asked her what she wanted to be and she said, she is good at maths so she might do well in finance. While listening to her, I start thinking about an issue every teenager nowadays is bumping into their lives. Nope, it’s not about how to choose a perfect career (even though it’s a matter concern for almost every teen). I was wondering, What does she need to do to identify her greatest potential? But most importantly, when she needs to do that self-assessment? Read More …

To Protect Children’s Future, Parents Should Stop Protecting Them from Failure

To Protect Children’s Future, Parents Should Stop Protecting Them from Failure
BY Ahmad Amirali

I remember my childhood when my mom always reminded me that failure was not an option in my exams. This philosophy is still running in many homes, but now the competition is now getting much fiercer than before. Now, the race is not against the pass or fail but of achieving higher grades and test scores. Nowadays, students are in more pressure than students twenty years ago. Moreover, this parental desire to see their kids shine leaves little room for children to make their own mistakes and learn from them. The question is, what would be the lifelong threats for a child who is overprotected by his/her parent? Is overcontrolling a hazard to their mental and social growth? Read More …

Why Do Children Misbehave? – Reasons and Solutions

Why Do Children Misbehave? | Reasons and Solutions
By Ahmad Amirali

There were times when parents use to consider every bad behaviour of their child as ‘Misbehaviour’ or disrespectful. The situation is most likely the same nowadays when parents usually ask me ‘I don’t know why my kids’ behaviour is like this or should I consult any doctor or child specialist’. These concerns made me think, why a person who just stepped in this world unable to comprehend their parents. There are many ways to read your child’s behaviour; Books, videos, counselling or, most importantly, talking to your child’s school teacher. However, above every possible way, you, parents are the most likely source where children feel secure and comfortable. Talk to them, try to understand why they behave in a particular way for a specific situation. Read More …

8 Educational Websites for Parents

8 Educational Websites for Parents
By Ahmad Amirali

In my last parent-teacher meeting, I received a complaint from one of the parents, and I must say she had a reason. First, she appreciates me about myreadables and shares some thoughtful reviews with me. However, she humbly asked me:
‘Urdu: آپ ہم والدین کیلۓ کیوں کوئ ریسورس نہیں ڈالتے؟’  ‘English: Why don’t you upload some resources for us, parents, as well?’. So, Parents here is the first instalment of the top 8 websites that help you to engage your child in different activities to practice their reading and math skills.  The resources on these websites are FREE; however, in some sites, you need to make an account. That’s it. I hope you will find these websites helpful in making your child’s reading skills fresh in the upcoming summer break. Read More …