Tag: Student Stress

Examophobia: The Exam Stress in Teenagers – Reasons | Remedies

Examophobia: The Exam Stress in Teenagers – Reasons | Remedies
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, I was reviewing ‘Parent Reflections’, which I collected from parents during parent’s One-on-Ones, and come across a reflection that caught my attention. According to that parent, her kid’s classroom performance and lesson engagement are quite satisfactory; however, she believes that her kid takes examination and class tests too seriously than anything else in his routine. The term which she used to explain her kid’s stress is ‘Examophobia’, the most common and interesting fear among students since the ‘advent of examinations’. Every year, students and their parents share similar kind of concerns to me about how they plan their time table to manage and prepare for their mid-terms and finals. However, the question which I ask every year and especially after reading this reflection is what triggered in students to developed such exam/test-related stress that sometimes it even becomes a ‘Phobia’ in some teens? Continue reading “Examophobia: The Exam Stress in Teenagers – Reasons | Remedies”

Are You Alone in Your Loneliness?

Are You Alone in Your Loneliness?
By Ahmad Amirali

Humans are roaming on this planet for about billions of years along with all the different types of species. Every single being is connected through many facets, ecologically, and one of the aspects is ‘Emotions’. We do have emotions because we feel, just as everything else does – trees, animals, insects everything feel in some way, and that’s how we all are connected with each other. However, I am leaving some room here for critics, as some people might not agree with me. Talking about emotions, have you ever found yourselves alone in a room full of people? Have you ever felt invisible in the middle of a conversation with your friends or family members? Have you ever felt lonely even you’re surrounded by your loved ones? You know what, you might not be alone in your loneliness. Continue reading “Are You Alone in Your Loneliness?”

Why Students Sometimes Feel Empty and Lost?

Why Students Sometimes Feel Empty and Lost?
By Ahmad Amirali

Yesterday, while reviewing my camp’s students remarks for me, I found a note of one of my camp students who once shared her depressive thoughts, which she usually encounters, especially in school. She describes that due to these depressive and empty thoughts, she even hardly concentrates on her studies. Moreover, It also affects her social life as she afraid of losing her friends will not understand her situation. She is not the only example; each year, many students share such experiences and stories with me.  The depression and anxiety are the two most uprising problems which teenagers are facing nowadays. (Previous article: Teen Anxiety | Reasons and Remedies). The reasons varied according to the age and the context in which teen is living. However, apart of contextual challenges, why students sometimes feel empty and lost even when they surrounded with so many resources, family and friends? Continue reading “Why Students Sometimes Feel Empty and Lost?”

Why Do We Need A Friend to Survive in This World of Chaos?

Why Do We Need A Friend to Survive in This World of Chaos?
By Ahmad Amirali

Almost every year, during one on one sessions with my students, they share their deepest fears, confusions, and stress motivators. Majority of their concerns that puzzled their world are related to their social life – friendships. The question that every student, who suffered from traumatic social experience, ask ‘Sir, why someone hurt us who know us better than anyone?’ I simply listen to their concerns and let them answer their own questions – it’s one of my strategy where students find solutions to their problem by themselves. However, the question that puzzled me after hearing their concerns, ‘Why do we need a friend to survive in this world of chaos?

When I was in school, I fascinated one of the subjects so much – Social Studies, where we study human evolution and development. There I learn the definition of society that mentioned an important aspect of humans. Human beings are social animals who need other humans to survive and live happily in his world. Continue reading “Why Do We Need A Friend to Survive in This World of Chaos?”

Why Meditation Should Be Included in School Curricula

Why Meditation Should Be Included in School Curricula
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, one of my friends ask me to accompany him to visit his therapist. He has a chronic stress problem and needs to visit the clinic every month. I went with him and was waiting for him outside the consulting clinic, where I observe a bunch of people doing meditation in a separate room. They were all looking 30 to 40 years of adults. There was an instructor who is also sitting with them. On my way back home, I thought in a world of chaos where students, nowadays, becoming the victim of competition and grades why don’t there should a platform where they can get relief from their study stress?

Recently I read an article by True Activist that stress upon the need of having he meditation classes should be part of the school curriculum. According to the article, when children act out by kicking and screaming, very often it is simply because they don’t understand what they are going through, and can’t find a better way to express their feelings. When they have a tantrum, it is most likely because they are struggling to deal with new and complex emotions that they are feeling for the first time in their lives. Continue reading “Why Meditation Should Be Included in School Curricula”

Why do we Fear of Rejection?

Why do we Fear of Rejection? – Reasons and Remedies
By Ahmad Amirali

Last week, I was out to travel to the northern areas of Pakistan for official reasons. Gilgit Baltistan and Chitral regions are known for its cultural and historical significance. I met many people; most of them were teachers. On my third day of the session, one candidate asked me a question that triggers a series of questions in my mind. He asked ‘Sir, If I do not fulfil this requirement in my application form, would I be rejected?’ I said, ‘Yes’. He replied, ‘Oh! Then I might not apply for that program, because I don’t want to be rejected’.  Later on, that day, I thought about that guy and questioned myself, why do we fear of rejection? Rejection, either in relationships or in a career, is equally brutal for almost every person. Students fear of failure in exams, teachers fear the failure of their lesson plans, and parents fear of their children’s future decisions. We all scared of being rejected but what makes us fear of such rejections? Continue reading “Why do we Fear of Rejection?”