As a teacher or a parent, we all aware of the different behaviours our teenagers demonstrate on specific occasion and situations. One of the actions which I observe, typically, in my classroom is eye-rolling. Usually, it comes after particular type of ‘personalise’ comments made by their teachers or parents such as, ‘Why you always stick to a particular friendship group, mingle with others as well?’ or ‘you did not do your home task, where were you last weekend? I believe rolling the eye simply means that the door is shut or even there is no door available at all. Maybe because they do not want to engage in this choosing the cloth exercise and in-fact they also find it uncomfortable to share this reason to someone even to their parents.
However, there are more than one reasons behind the ‘Eye-Rolling’ thing teens usually do.
When Teens Rebel
Teenagers are geniuses at doing things they know will irritate you. For example, if you like to exercise, they lay around in bed. If you are hoping for a calm family dinner, they will start drumming their fingers while complaining about the meal you just made. If you try to predict their mood and act accordingly, they will shift attitudes. The reason is simple they are rebelling against you. Why? Maybe they strive to appear grown-up, independent, and self-sufficient. They need to feel capable of finding their way without parental direction. Help is perceived as interference, concern as babying, and advice as bossing.
According to Dr Anna Freud said that these teen behaviours are the part of their developmental cycle as they seek to free themselves from childhood ties with parents, establish new identifications with peers, and find their own identities. One of the solutions is to make sure that they have a smooth transition from kids to adulthood
When You Show Resentful to Their Behaviour
Being a parent or a teacher, let your child feel confident of your affection and that you respect them no matter what they do. If you don’t allow your children to express their anger, frustration, and depression these emotions can come out unconsciously as attempts to get back at you though failing in school, drinking, or another dangerous behaviour.
Be a Role Model
As a parent or an adult, your responsibility is to demonstrate values and set reasonable standards. Teenagers need to make sure that you respect their decisions and thinking. Teenagers rely on parents to set limits, especially to contain their more reckless impulses. Your goal is not to be your teenager’s pal but rather his or her friendly guardian, a role model, concerned and robust enough to endure temporary animosity when you uphold standards and values that are in their best interests.
However, don’t be frustrated when your child opposes your standards, resists your rules, and tests your limits. Part of developing one’s identity is testing boundaries. They should not be expected to like your prohibitions.
Teenagers, at this age, require a mentor who believes in them. It is only you, parents, who have the power to help and direct your teens in the right direction. So now onwards respond with more positive and direct responses, and avoid sarcasm whenever dealing with your children’s education or behavioural issues.