Why Do We Need to Teach Our Girls to Be Brave, Not Perfect?

Why Do We Need to Teach Our Girls to Be Brave, Not Perfect?
By Ahmad Amirali

Today, one of my previous students, who is now in her under graduation, approach and asked me a question that made me write that article. She said, she wants to complete her graduate studies and wants to apply for Fulbright scholarship. However, she was afraid that she might not make it through the last level because mostly everybody, from her friend circle to her relative, opposing her decision. Well, as a teacher and her well-wisher I said what I supposed to said that always listen to your heart and mind instead of people who hardly know who you are. Success and failure are depending on how much effort you put forward to achieve your goal. However, the question is, what makes her afraid of what she wants to achieve in her life? but before asking that question, one should ask, why she is afraid of whatever choices she wants to make herself for her future development?

While thinking on this issue, I came across a video that resonates my thoughts about the girl being brave in today’s time. The video was a TED talk by Reshma Saujani, an author of ‘Brave, Not Perfect’ and the founder of Girls Who Code. She believes that we are raising our girls to be perfect, and we’re raising our boys to be brave. Both genders should be raised as brave instead of being perfect. Further, she highlights that Most girls are taught to avoid risk and failure. We’re taught to smile pretty, play it safe, get all A’s. Boys, on the other hand, are taught to play rough, swing high, crawl to the top of the monkey bars and then just jump off headfirst. And by the time they’re adults, whether they’re negotiating a raise or even asking someone out on a date, they’re habituated to take risk after risk. They’re rewarded for it. In other words, we’re raising our girls to be perfect, and we’re raising our boys to be brave.

Let’s review her talk and try to change our gender inequal child development mindset.

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